I have been in sort of a seclusion phrase for the past couple of years and one of course I have my reasons. My first reasons are my children. I have a toddler and a teen and I guess I have an old school mentality because I believe that an addiot Seclusion is often tagged to the word depression; however, sometimes seclusion can be a
I returned a phone call last week, and the information that I received felt like a key opening up closed doors of emotions that had been locked up inside of me for years. As my ears received audio through the phone, I felt a burning sensation inside of my heart and it caused invisible hurt to seep out of my chest. The pain caused my eyes to water. The opposite party continued to talk, and I only heard parts of it because my mind had become NASCAR and my thoughts were racing like Darrell Wallace Jr. I made it to the end of the conversation without being disrespectful; and then, I started cussing like a sailor immediately after pressing the end button because I was out of control angry.
That phone call I received was from a relative who had a chat with my father pertaining to an incident between him and I at a loved one’s funeral. My DNA basically looked me in face and ignored me as if Maury had told him that he was not my father! I shared this with my family and they of course shared this information with him. His memory of the incident was frazzled and so was his many explanations.
My number was given to him and I pray that he does not call because the Bible says it best; Let the dead bury the dead!
I was told to be the bigger person and to behave like a true Christian; however, I do not recall God sending David back to Jesse or his mother: I do not recall God sending Ester to find her parents: I do not recall God sending Ishmael to run behind Abraham as an attempt for equal love, and I do not recall God allowing Jabez the time to search for his father every day and hold up his destiny.
David said that when our mothers and fathers forsake us, then the Lord will take us up and my version of this verse; is that, God literally adopts us.
The title of this post stems from the Bible in the Book of Ephesians, Chapter Six, Verse Four. And it Reads:
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Ginger’Thoughts – I know that Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant sounded great speaking of the Fatherless Children issues on the Life Class; however, I disagreed with many of the comments made. Being fatherless is not a handicap. Of course it is painful but you accept it and you move on! We are all born with a purpose and some of us were created to face mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional hurts because we will not hide it. Our pain was pre-destined to help others and we do it everyday! God sends us who we need every time and I would rather be unconditionally loved by him then partially loved by any man!
When fatherless children allow God to adopt them, they move from victims, to victors! David became a King, Ester became a Queen, Ishmael inherited his own nation, and Jabez, whose name literally means pain asked his Father:
1 Chronicles 4:10
10 Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, “Oh that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my border! May your hand be with me, and may you keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!”
So if God could bless that child, and allow that child to ball out of control, and comfort that child, and protect that child, and heal that child who was born into a life of pain; then he can do the same for the rest of his children:)
NO ROOM FOR PETTINESS
Blessed Father God, my love, my joy, my heart, my wellspring of everything good and tasty, I’ve come to realize something about you God, that I just love . .
There’s no room for pettiness in the divine plan.
I love that you keep it real with me God, and when I get petty, you let me know.
There’s no room for pettiness in a God-sized vision, the vision you planted in my heart before I was conceived.
There’s no room for pettiness in right relationships, the kind of relationships that stand on unconditional love and don’t abide foolishness.
There’s no room for pettiness in service to your people God, nor engaging in nit-picking nor wanting people to do anything other than what they’re doing.
I know now that small people focus on small things with small eyes.
There’s no room for pettiness anywhere in anything that’s God-ordained.
There is nothing about me that is petty. I was not created by a petty God. There’s no room for it anywhere in my consciousness.
Therefore I pronounce it, and all its pesky little relatives, including nit-picking, sweating the small stuff, back-biting, nail-biting, and noticing what’s wrong rather than what’s right, null and void, disintegrated and obliterated, never to return.
I’m grateful to be released from pettiness! That feels good!
In its place, Father, I choose to believe You when You whisper in my ear that I am created for greatness. I call up greatness and stand on greatness!
Thank You, God, for delivering me from pettiness and standing me in greatness!
I am free!
Rev. Valerie Love
Iyanla Vanzant, is a woman who has an impressive resume both educational and street, and she also has a show on Oprah’s OWN Network entitled, “Fix My Life!”
Ms. Vanzant is also a Minister! This message came from the heart of her Ministry and if you would like more information or would like to sign-up for her daily e-mails; I have provided the link for you to. Iyanla Vanzant’s Website
Ginger’s Thoughts – I once considered gossip to be a juicy and delicious dessert. As a sweet potato pie is a finale to a Louisiana pot of Gumbo, to hear or read about the fall of a celebrity or individual person that I do not particularly care for seemed to give me that same sort of delectable, sweet tooth, satisfaction as that pie, and I begun to crave more and more of it like a Minister addicted to porn, or a “fresh out of rehab” drug addict. A demand for any supply that can negatively kill you be it a physical, mental, or spiritual death, is always a click, a number, or a corner away. There is a place in all of us that need serious attention and work and this is the beginning of mines.
I Know u lookin down on me, i have no excuses
I bring this shit to me an i have no apology
I spend my doh so its all on me, yo
i get down with the white an brown in the street like a fuckin clown i get high and then i come back down
For a short while i am on my own dreamin, driftin away from the misery that lives deep inside ov me.
Arsenio Hall, the true King of Late-Night television has returned and I am praying that he climbs his way back to the top and kick that white ass off his throne! Mr. Hall is known for creating memorial interviews that will never be forgotten. Former President, Bill Clinton serenaded us with his saxophone on Mr. Hall’s stage. Ervin “Magic” Johnson introduced us all to the reality of HIV/AIDs and gave those infected hope that this virus was not an immediate death sentence. Popular Latino comic, George Lopez was introduced on this show and honestly owes the beginning of his career to Arsenio Hall.
Along with great guest, Mr. Hall provided a unique platform with a positive energy that made you want to watch show his show in its entirety. I never remember a boring show even when he had guests that I personally was not to fond of. That takes talent!
I will never forget the night when Arsenio Hall addressed his audience, the “Dog Pound”, and all of us viewers watching, stating that his network did not approve of Louis Farrakhan, the Leader of the Nation of Islam, to be interviewed on his show, and if he proceeded, his show would be canceled. Unfortunately, Mr. Hall did not believe that threat and had Louis Farrakhan on the show, and that decision resulted in to immediate cancellation.
I do not recall the nation fighting for him; however, a bunch of white folks were recruited in an attempt to fulfill his position. Arsenio Hall seemed to disappear into thin air and I was pissed! Why didn’t he try to fight back? Where was all of the people he helped? Were they helping and supporting him? These were the questions I was asking myself.
I found him again on Donald’s Trump Celebrity Apprentice show and I was pleasantly surprised by his peaceful demeanor and wise thought process through-out the competition. Instead of being angry and behaving as an contestant who deserved to win he was humble; and in the end, he was declared the winner.
Arsenio Hall taught me:
1. It’s true, How we handle Setbacks, effects our Comebacks!
2. Haters expect a Bitter demeanor, surprise them with a demeanor of Peace instead!
3. Be open to new opportunities, because you never know who is the key to your next level!
4. Draw knowledge everywhere you can, because when you meet opportunity you want to be prepared!
5. Don’t give-up! These words are so simple but the meaning of them are powerful. Life can beat the hell out of you and leave you for dead, but there is an Angel of Mercy for everybody. The hardest part is believing!
Ginger’s Thoughts – Yep, I stole one of my category titles from this man…”Things that make you say hm………………!”
I’m at my desk this morning exhausted! My children take so much of my energy. I’m a single mom of two. My son is fourteen and of course I spoiled him rotten so in his mind, he believes that he is the Louisiana version of Prince Akeem from Coming to America. I do everything for him and now I’m trying to figure out how to kill the inner monster I created!
My daughter is two and she has the personality of an Olympian! I’m 33,and just way too old to keep up. I have complained about the both of them all morning and stressing the need of a peaceful vacation and then I opened my blog to posts I had saved. I found this one.
The body of Londyn Samuels, 1, lies in a casket as her sister, Paris, 3, looks up at her during the funeral at New Hope Baptist Church in New Orleans on Saturday, September 7, 2013. Samuels was murdered while in the arms of her babysitter.
(Photo by Chris Granger, Nola.com | The Times-Picayune)Ginger’s Thoughts – I close with asking God to forgive me for my selfish thoughts and complaints. I am not a grieving mother this morning, unlike the mother of this one year old baby. My children talked to each other this morning, unlike this big sister who can only stare at her little sister whom she will no longer talk to accept in her dreams. Sometimes reality checks are stronger than coffee!
A North Carolina police officer was charged with voluntary manslaughter on Saturday after police say he fatally shot an unarmed man who had apparently just survived a car crash in Charlotte and was looking for help.
The victim, Jonathan Ferrell, a 24-year-old former Florida A&M University football player, was shot multiple times and pronounced dead at the scene early Saturday morning.
The 27-year-old officer, Randall Kerrick, turned himself in to police late Saturday. He was released on a $50,000 bond.
“The shooting of Mr. Ferrell was excessive,” the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department said in a statement. “Our investigation has shown that Officer Kerrick did not have a lawful right to discharge his weapon during this encounter.”
According to police, Ferrell crashed his vehicle into the woods, climbed out of his car and walked a half-mile to the nearest house. He began “banging on the door viciously,” Charlotte-Mecklenburg Chief Rodney Monroe said.
“It was quite possible he was seeking assistance based on his accident,” Monroe said.
But the woman who answered the door thought Ferrell was a burglar and called police shortly after 2:30 a.m. to report an attempted break-in.
Kerrick and two other responding officers surrounded Ferrell, who “immediately charged” at the police, Monroe said. One officer tried unsuccessfully to subdue Ferrell with a taser. Kerrick then fired his weapon “several times.”
“He immediately charged toward the three officers, one in particular,” Monroe said. “That officer in particular fired his weapon several times, striking the individual multiple times.”
“It’s with heavy hearts and significant regrets it’s come to this,” Monroe added. “Our hearts go out to the Ferrell family and many members of the CMPD family.“
According to the Charlotte Observer, police said initially that Kerrick’s actions were “appropriate and lawful.” But a subsequent investigation found the officer, who joined the Police Department in 2011, had “violated the law regarding voluntary manslaughter.” Under North Carolina law, voluntary manslaughter is defined as killing without malice using “excessive force” in exercising “imperfect self-defense,” the paper said.
Monroe said there was no evidence Ferrell threatened the woman. Alcohol did not appear a factor in the crash, he added.
The two other officers involved in the incident were placed on paid administrative leave.
Ginger’s Thoughts – I have re-read this article three times and I am having a problem establishing the thought process of the North Carolina police department. It seems as though Chief Monroe is inferring that his officers used excessive force on this young Black college athlete; however, the penalties that these officers are receiving state other wise. $50.000 bond? The neighborhood dope dealers get bigger bonds than that! Paid administrative leave? Who gets paid vacations for murder? Of course, the Zimmerman clan. To the Ferrell family; I’m sorry for your loss. God has a way of using all of us to expose injustice and you may not realize this, but God knew that you, the Martin family would handle theses losses according to his will.