Today I Honor my Mother, Warnita Pleasant

The Book of Ruth is one of my favorites, and not because I am preparing myself to meet “my Boaz” like some of my single sisters patiently waiting on God to send them a Husband! Good luck with that if you’re in the state of Louisiana! black wedding The character that fascinates me in this book is Naomi because she gives a truthful close-up of a Woman dealing with a multitude of issues. I love the way Solomon describes a “Virtuous” Woman in Proverbs 31:10-31, but let’s be real; We all know Bathsheba went through some things prior to becoming a woman of virtue….OK! We all go through some things prior to becoming the women that God ordained us to be; and Naomi in my opinion, does not get enough credit for being a female genius who sat her problems on a chessboard and strategically played her opponents; grief, heartbreak, poverty, shame, and mental instability, and in the end she beat the odds for herself and the daughter she acquired. CHECKMATE!

Naomi is the female version of Job. She had a husband, children, and she even acquired two daughters-in-laws. Naomi was not familiar with struggle because her family had wealth. She was happy and comfortable until God allowed for that life to be taken away from her, leaving her with nothing but a loyal daughter-in-law named Ruth who refused to live her while she was down. A daughter-in-law named Ruth who with Faith, told her mother-in-law Naomi, that she would go with her and whatever God she served, she would serve him too!

So together they went back to the home of Naomi‘s DNA; Bethlehem. Naomi was so broken that when her hood starting noticing her she said, “Don’t call me Naomi, Call me “Mara,” because the Almighty has made my life very bitter. 21 I went away full, but the Lord has brought me back empty. Why call me Naomi? The Lord has afflicted me; the Almighty has brought misfortune upon me.

I believe that all of us has had a Ruth 1:20-21 moment! This moment creeps up on us when our lives our out of control to the point of having us questioning where is our God, and why is he allowing these circumstances to occur in our life. We feel restless and peace is far from us, and that is why The Book of Ruth is one of my favorites because it reminds me that whenever I feel like changing my name to “Mara,” there is always a Ruth, or a person that God has ordained with the FAITH to get me to my next level.

Naomi ends up getting her daughter-in-law married to a King McDreamy, balling out of control, and in generations to come; bringing forth a boy named David who would slay giants, write a book that is of full of praise and worship, and become a King.

So today on October 03, 2014. I need my mother; Warnita Pleasantme and mama to know that The Book of Ruth is one of my favorites because MAMA, you are my Naomi! You have been through hell and back and yet you taught me about your God and I am alive because of that.

You are my Naomi, because you taught me that action speaks louder than words and I know how to recognize the people who were really sent for my good.

You are my Naomi, because you put aside you “Mara” moments to teach me how to genuinely love people.

You are my Naomi, because when I’m having a “Mara” moment, you speak my life and future back into existence.

You are my Naomi, because you embedded in me to never have a “poor old me” attitude and that is why I just can’t give up now (in my Mary Mary voice:)

You are my Naomi, because I am a Beast because of you. There is no topic, no title, no nationality or culture, that intimidates me.

For the rest of my life, I will follow you and I will serve the God that you serve. I will honor who and what God created you to be. I will be there with you on top of the mountains, or trapped in the wilderness. I will cut up and act a fool to get you back when you go into LALA land. I love you MAMA!

Happy Birthday:)

Ephesians Chapter Six, Verse Four – The Power of DNA

I returned a phone call last week, and the information that I received felt like a key opening up closed doors of emotions that had been locked up inside of me for years. As my ears received audio through the phone, I felt a burning sensation inside of my heart and it caused invisible hurt to seep out of my chest. The pain caused my eyes to water. The opposite party continued to talk, and I only heard parts of it because my mind had become NASCAR and my thoughts were racing like Darrell Wallace Jr. I made it to the end of the conversation without being disrespectful; and then, I started cussing like a sailor immediately after pressing the end button because I was out of control angry.

That phone call I received was from a relative who had a chat with my father pertaining to an incident between him and I at a loved one’s funeral. My DNA basically looked me in face and ignored me as if Maury had told him that he was not my father! I shared this with my family and they of course shared this information with him. His memory of the incident was frazzled and so was his many explanations.

My number was given to him and I pray that he does not call because the Bible says it best; Let the dead bury the dead!

I was told to be the bigger person and to behave like a true Christian; however, I do not recall God sending David back to Jesse or his mother: I do not recall God sending Ester to find her parents: I do not recall God sending Ishmael to run behind Abraham as an attempt for equal love, and I do not recall God allowing Jabez the time to search for his father every day and hold up his destiny.

David said that when our mothers and fathers forsake us, then the Lord will take us up and my version of this verse; is that, God literally adopts us.

The title of this post stems from the Bible in the Book of Ephesians, Chapter Six, Verse Four. And it Reads:

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Ginger’Thoughts – I know that Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant sounded great speaking of the Fatherless Children issues on the Life Class; however, I disagreed with many of the comments made. Being fatherless is not a handicap. Of course it is painful but you accept it and you move on! We are all born with a purpose and some of us were created to face mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional hurts because we will not hide it. Our pain was pre-destined to help others and we do it everyday! God sends us who we need every time and I would rather be unconditionally loved by him then partially loved by any man!

When fatherless children allow God to adopt them, they move from victims, to victors! David became a King, Ester became a Queen, Ishmael inherited his own nation, and Jabez, whose name literally means pain asked his Father:

1 Chronicles 4:10
10 Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, “Oh that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my border! May your hand be with me, and may you keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!”

So if God could bless that child, and allow that child to ball out of control, and comfort that child, and protect that child, and heal that child who was born into a life of pain; then he can do the same for the rest of his children:)

No Room For Pettiness


Blessed Father God, my love, my joy, my heart, my wellspring of everything good and tasty, I’ve come to realize something about you God, that I just love . .
There’s no room for pettiness in the divine plan.
I love that you keep it real with me God, and when I get petty, you let me know.
There’s no room for pettiness in a God-sized vision, the vision you planted in my heart before I was conceived.
There’s no room for pettiness in right relationships, the kind of relationships that stand on unconditional love and don’t abide foolishness.
There’s no room for pettiness in service to your people God, nor engaging in nit-picking nor wanting people to do anything other than what they’re doing.
I know now that small people focus on small things with small eyes.
There’s no room for pettiness anywhere in anything that’s God-ordained.
There is nothing about me that is petty. I was not created by a petty God. There’s no room for it anywhere in my consciousness.
Therefore I pronounce it, and all its pesky little relatives, including nit-picking, sweating the small stuff, back-biting, nail-biting, and noticing what’s wrong rather than what’s right, null and void, disintegrated and obliterated, never to return.
I’m grateful to be released from pettiness! That feels good!
In its place, Father, I choose to believe You when You whisper in my ear that I am created for greatness. I call up greatness and stand on greatness!
Thank You, God, for delivering me from pettiness and standing me in greatness!

I am free!

Rev. Valerie Love

Iyanla Vanzant, is a woman who has an impressive resume both educational and street, and she also has a show on Oprah’s OWN Network entitled, “Fix My Life!”
Ms. Vanzant is also a Minister! This message came from the heart of her Ministry and if you would like more information or would like to sign-up for her daily e-mails; I have provided the link for you to. Iyanla Vanzant’s Website

Ginger’s Thoughts – I once considered gossip to be a juicy and delicious dessert. As a sweet potato pie is a finale to a Louisiana pot of Gumbo, to hear or read about the fall of a celebrity or individual person that I do not particularly care for seemed to give me that same sort of delectable, sweet tooth, satisfaction as that pie, and I begun to crave more and more of it like a Minister addicted to porn, or a “fresh out of rehab” drug addict. A demand for any supply that can negatively kill you be it a physical, mental, or spiritual death, is always a click, a number, or a corner away. There is a place in all of us that need serious attention and work and this is the beginning of mines.

Remembering Londyn Samuels

I’m at my desk this morning exhausted! My children take so much of my energy. I’m a single mom of two. My son is fourteen and of course I spoiled him rotten so in his mind, he believes that he is the Louisiana version of Prince Akeem from Coming to America. I do everything for him and now I’m trying to figure out how to kill the inner monster I created!

My daughter is two and she has the personality of an Olympian! I’m 33,and just way too old to keep up. I have complained about the both of them all morning and stressing the need of a peaceful vacation and then I opened my blog to posts I had saved. I found this one.


The body of Londyn Samuels, 1, lies in a casket as her sister, Paris, 3, looks up at her during the funeral at New Hope Baptist Church in New Orleans on Saturday, September 7, 2013. Samuels was murdered while in the arms of her babysitter.

(Photo by Chris Granger, | The Times-Picayune)Ginger’s Thoughts – I close with asking God to forgive me for my selfish thoughts and complaints. I am not a grieving mother this morning, unlike the mother of this one year old baby. My children talked to each other this morning, unlike this big sister who can only stare at her little sister whom she will no longer talk to accept in her dreams. Sometimes reality checks are stronger than coffee!

Since I can’t Afford a Tummy Tuck….5 Ways to Lose My Gut

I love to eat, and being single isn’t helping me much. I have literally fallen in love with Blue Bells’ Mint Chocolate Chip ice-cream and warm chewy brownies. Every spoonful triggers my taste buds! The combination of temperature and textures seems to create tingling sensations throughout my body and I can only describe them as mini orgasms! The feeling is wonderful; however, wearing a girdle is not and so I researched some realistic exercises that I could do to help me get rid of my tummy fat. I’m tired of wearing a girdle! I found this article courtesy of MSN Healthy, FitZone. This is the web address for those who would like to work on other areas,

Static Curl

Start: Lie on your back with a rolled-up towel tucked under the curve of your lower back. Place your hands lightly behind, or on the sides of, your head. Curl your head, neck and shoulders slightly forward to raise your shoulder blades a couple of inches off the floor. Engage your abs: Tighten the muscles on all sides of your torso, but do not suck in the gut or let the lower back flatten toward the floor. Do not move, pulse, crunch or curl farther forward, just hold the raised position and ‘brace’ the abs tighter. Keep your neck extended, not bent forward. Breathe normally and try to tighten as much of your torso as possible while keeping the lower back curve in place. Hold for 5 to 10 seconds.

Technique tip: Avoid “crunching” back and forth. Just hold the position and tighten your core muscles without moving.

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Finish: Keeping your core muscles tight, rotate your entire torso as a unit toward the right. Hold this position with out pulsing or moving. Focus on creating a tight wall of abdominal muscle and breathe normally. Hold for 5 to 10 seconds, then return to the centered position and rest. Curl up again, hold, then rotate to the left and hold. Then lower, rest and repeat, alternating sides.

Safety tip: If your back or neck feel fatigued, rest sooner. Work up to holding each pose for one minute.
Common error: Yanking on your head.
Fit fix: Turn from your upper back, not your neck; open the chin slightly and keep your neck aligned with your spine.


Start: Start on your hands and knees. Tighten your abs, but maintain the natural lower back curve. Then raise your right leg straight up in back, stopping when your foot is hip level. Keep both hips even so that your abdomen faces down, not out to the side. Make sure that your elbows are not locked out and that your shoulders are not scrunched by your ears.

Technique tip: Look down, not up, to keep your neck aligned with your spine.


Finish: When you feel stable with your right leg raised, raise the left arm up in front, stopping when it is horizontal and hip level. Hold this position by tightening all the muscles in your abs, butt and back. Raise the arm high enough to feel your shoulder blade flatten closer to your ribs, but do not raise your hand above your head. Look down and tuck your chin in to your neck, but avoid dropping your head below your shoulders. Keep all body parts in a straight line. Breathe normally. Then lower and repeat. Then switch sides.

Common error: Over-arching the back when you raise your arm and leg.
Fit fix: Avoid making a C shape with your spine when your lift your arm. Keep your abs tight and your spine stable.

Band-Core Twist
Band Core Twist

Start: Wrap a resistance band around a stable pole or sturdy piece of exercise equipment. Position it at chest height. Hold on to the handles, or if your band does not have handles, wrap the ends securely around each hand. Face the direction where the band is attached. Stand tall, but lower your center of gravity slightly by bending your knees and shifting your body weight to your heels. Hold both hands together and stretch the band, holding your hands close to your chest.

Technique tip: Step forward or back to adjust the band length. There should be no slack, but it should not be so taut that you feel pulled forward.

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Finish: Tighten your abs against the pull of the resistance band and rotate your rib cage toward the right as far as you comfortably can. Move your torso as a unit and turn your head in the direction of your chest. Hold, then keeping your core muscles tight, slowly twist back to the center starting position. Stand tall as you turn in both directions.

Safety tip: If you feel any strain in your back, move closer to the band to lighten the resistance and/or limit the range of motion of your turn.
Common error: Leaning your body back at a diagonal.
Fit fix: Resist the urge to let the band support your weight. Stand upright and maintain perfect posture as you turn.

Low-balance plank
Low balance plank

Start: Lie on your stomach with your legs extended and prop yourself up on your forearms. Curl your toes under and raise your hips three to six inches off the floor. Hold this position, keeping your body in a straight line. Tighten your abs, breathe normally and lower your shoulders away from your ears.

Common error: Lower-back sagging.
Fit fix: Find your neutral hip position like this: Raise your hips up so that they are slightly piked (in a V shape), then lower your hips close to the floor and hover within this range until you find the point where you feel less stress on your lower back. Your body should form a straight line from heel to hips to head.

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Finish: Pull your abs in away from the floor to stabilize the muscles in your entire torso, then bend your right knee to bring your calf perpendicular to the floor. Hold, then straighten your leg, lower your body and rest. Then repeat, alternating sides.

Safety tip: If your lower back hurts, build up to this exercise by first doing it resting on your knees with just your hips and torso raised and lifting each knee an inch off the floor. Hold for 5 to 10 seconds and work your way up longer holds and raising your entire body off the floor.

Side Bridge
side bridge

Start: Lie on your right side and rest on your bottom (right) hand. Straighten your legs and shift them back so that your thighs are in line with your torso. Cross the top (left) leg over the bottom (right) leg. Hold your ribcage high away from the floor.

Technique tip: Avoid locking out your straight elbow, keep it softly bent.

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Finish: Lift your body up sideways, supporting your weight on your hand and the sides of your feet. Squeeze your butt muscles as you push up to form a diagonal line from your head to your feet. Tighten your abs and make sure that your hips are stacked parallel and your abdomen faces to the front, rather than down to the floor. Keep breathing normally and focus on locking the pelvis and ribcage together so that your torso does not sag. Hold the position for 5 to 10 seconds, working up to one minute. Then, lower and repeat. Then switch sides.

Safety tip: If your supporting shoulder feels uncomfortable, lower your shoulder away from your ear, try not to sink into your arm and keep your arm perpendicular to the floor—keep your hand directly below your elbow.

Ginger’s Thoughts – I wrote this post pumped up and ready; however, Matherne’s Supermarket has Blue Bell’s ice-cream on sale for $4.99, and I have a box of Duncan Hines brownie mix in my cabinet…. I think I should have searched for articles pertaining to will-power and discipline on MSN, prior to blogging this article! SMH @ myself….

Yahoo Shine – Lose Weight in Seven Days

The Editors of WOMEN’S Healthy Living is advising women how to lose weight in seven days. I copied the material for those who are seeking to slim down a bit, and I happen to be one of them:) I have also attached the link because it had a lot of cool weight lost tips and articles.

Sunday: Eliminate processed foods

1. If you can’t pronounce the ingredients, the food is off-limits. Or hit the produce aisle for foods with no label at all.
(I agree, but I wish Snickers had harder to pronounce ingredients!)

Monday: Lay off the sauce

2. Not only are alcoholic drinks dehydrating and high in calories, they also make resisting nibbles difficult. No shocker here: Studies prove women consume more calories after drinking.
(Wait, are you telling me I can’t drink?…Mondays may be a problem for me!)

Tuesday: Get a fiber fix

3. It may be tempting to nix all carbs, but don’t forgo fiber, a proven source of long-lasting satiety. Sprinkle flaxseed onto yogurt or add a few teaspoons of sliced almonds to your salad.
(If this would have said I could not have bread or pasta, I would have quit this plan immediately; however, I can cut back…)

Wednesday: Burn, baby, burn

4. Eating steadily throughout the day can prevent hunger-which makes you want to ravage anything in sight. Aim for three small meals (300 to 350 calories each) and two snacks (100 to 150 calories each). I like this!

Thursday: Banish bloat

5. Broccoli, onions, and peppers cause gassiness and bloating. Stick to water based produce like cucumbers, spinach, and asparagus. Potassium-rich fruits like bananas and oranges also purge retained water. I can do this too!

Friday: Flush it out

6. Cells retain water when they don’t have enough of it. Down 2 to 3 liters each day. Sip slowly and the water will hit your bloodstream rather than filter out through your liver, so you won’t have to pee every 5 seconds.
( I have obviously been doing this wrong!)

Ginger’s Thoughts – Well, I am going to try this and see if it works. If anyone else decides to follow this plan and you see results, please tell me so that we can share!

Has Peter Parker Been There The Whole Time?


Comic book reading was never my hobby; however, when I was a young girl in the 90’s, I would wake up early every Saturday morning to have breakfast with Mr. Stan Lee and his Marvel cartoon heros. I would begin with Spider-Man and finish with the X-Men. Back then, the cartoons had a geneological format and so I knew the background history of each and every character. For instance, I knew that Storm had a son, I knew that Mystic was the mother of Rogue and the Night Crawler, and I knew without a doubt that Peter Parker loved Mary Jane Watson with all of his heart, and even though I knew nothing about love, I knew that this bond between these two were special and when I grew-up, I wanted to have this bond with a man like Peter Parker too!

How excited I was to see these movies come to the big-screen! X-Men was ok…well I loved the second one…but Tobey McGuire did a magnificient and perfect job of introducing the world to the intelligent, socially ackward, family-oriented, oddly funny, devoted, respectable, understanding and patient Peter Parker; the man underneath the Spider-Man suit.

I’m sure by now that you have surmised that I have a secret obsession with Peter Parker and you are absoulutely correct! I am secretly in love with him, and I am patiently waiting for his Black twin to find me again because I think that I have met him before, but like Mary Jane, my personal issues clouded my judgement and my heart was too broken to recognize it’s match.
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Ginger’s Thoughts – Hospital scene from SpiderMan when Peter Parker is in the hospital answering a question about SpiderMan to Mary Jane while his aunt May is lying in her hospital bed recuperating after the Green Goblin attack.

GingerGirl: Has he mentioned me?
Peter Parker: Yeah.
GingerGirl: What’d he say?
Peter Parker: Uh… I said… he asked me what I thought about you.
GingerGirl: And what did you say?
Peter Parker: I said… uh… Spider-Man, I said uh… The great thing about GB is… when you look in her eyes and she’s looking back in yours… everything… feels… not quite normal. Because you feel stronger and weaker at the same time. You feel excited and at the same time, terrified. The truth is… you don’t know what you feel except you know what kind of man you want to be. It’s as if you’ve reached the unreachable and you weren’t ready for it.”
GingerGirl: You said that?
Peter Parker: Well, something like that.

Now this sounds like a man who truly loves the entire being of a woman and I have faith that I will experience this love, this lifetime:)