I returned a phone call last week, and the information that I received felt like a key opening up closed doors of emotions that had been locked up inside of me for years. As my ears received audio through the phone, I felt a burning sensation inside of my heart and it caused invisible hurt to seep out of my chest. The pain caused my eyes to water. The opposite party continued to talk, and I only heard parts of it because my mind had become NASCAR and my thoughts were racing like Darrell Wallace Jr. I made it to the end of the conversation without being disrespectful; and then, I started cussing like a sailor immediately after pressing the end button because I was out of control angry.
That phone call I received was from a relative who had a chat with my father pertaining to an incident between him and I at a loved one’s funeral. My DNA basically looked me in face and ignored me as if Maury had told him that he was not my father! I shared this with my family and they of course shared this information with him. His memory of the incident was frazzled and so was his many explanations.
My number was given to him and I pray that he does not call because the Bible says it best; Let the dead bury the dead!
I was told to be the bigger person and to behave like a true Christian; however, I do not recall God sending David back to Jesse or his mother: I do not recall God sending Ester to find her parents: I do not recall God sending Ishmael to run behind Abraham as an attempt for equal love, and I do not recall God allowing Jabez the time to search for his father every day and hold up his destiny.
David said that when our mothers and fathers forsake us, then the Lord will take us up and my version of this verse; is that, God literally adopts us.
The title of this post stems from the Bible in the Book of Ephesians, Chapter Six, Verse Four. And it Reads:
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Ginger’Thoughts – I know that Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant sounded great speaking of the Fatherless Children issues on the Life Class; however, I disagreed with many of the comments made. Being fatherless is not a handicap. Of course it is painful but you accept it and you move on! We are all born with a purpose and some of us were created to face mental, physical, spiritual, and emotional hurts because we will not hide it. Our pain was pre-destined to help others and we do it everyday! God sends us who we need every time and I would rather be unconditionally loved by him then partially loved by any man!
When fatherless children allow God to adopt them, they move from victims, to victors! David became a King, Ester became a Queen, Ishmael inherited his own nation, and Jabez, whose name literally means pain asked his Father:
1 Chronicles 4:10
10 Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, “Oh that you would bless me indeed, and enlarge my border! May your hand be with me, and may you keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!”
So if God could bless that child, and allow that child to ball out of control, and comfort that child, and protect that child, and heal that child who was born into a life of pain; then he can do the same for the rest of his children:)